Friend with Benefits, cut-buddies, booty call…you name, some where someone is doing it. (Pun intended!)
Movies, books, songs, and many blog posts have tackled the subject, some with funny stories that end in true love, others end with dire circumstances. But the question remains: Can two people remain friends once they have sex?
Are there really benefits to the relationship?? Can a man and woman really walk away and find that significant other and leave their ‘friend’ behind for good?
Every relationship is different. Depending on personalities, wants, needs, desires, short-term and long-term requirements, if each of you are not of the same ‘sex only’ mindset, someone is going to get hurt. Then there are the requirements…do you stay monogamous in your relationship, or have multiple partners? What type of protection is used? Has anyone been tested for STD’s?
And last but not least…what are the rules?
Sleep over, don’t sleep over? Once a week or as often as possible? What happens in-between? Can you hang out as friends or only text when you want to hook up? How long will this arrangement last?
Google ‘friends with benefits rules’ and you will find all kinds of articles. Rules for men, rules for women, rules about kissing…the 10 best rules, the 25 best rules….
But in the end, it comes down to what it is you want out of a relationship.
In Jaded, Book two of The Butterfly Memoirs, Yasmine Phillips has a history of friends with benefits relationships. Her past dating experiences have all ended in disaster, leaving her to believe the only way to find her way to physical gratification is to play a man’s game. Her little ‘red’ book is full of numbers, though while selective, she makes sure she keeps her heart on lock down and out of the game. But what happens when she finds herself in a relationship with a man who is nothing like what she’s used too? What happens when someone breaks the rules and lets love in? Can a real relationship begin?
Jaded will be available March 7th! In the meantime, get to know Yasmine and her friends, Ebony and Kaitlyn in the Amazon Bestseller, A Heart Not Easily Broken.
- 10 Rules For Friends With Benefits (thoughtcatalog.com)
- #8Sunday- Jaded- Yasmine’s Philosophy on Love, Sex,and Relationships (authormjkanebooks.wordpress.com)